Marriage Matters Because Children Need Both Mom and Dad in the Home
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While Valentine’s Day is now in the rearview mirror, there is never a bad time for Americans to be reminded that strong families thrive when men and women commit to one another in holy matrimony before bringing children into the world.
It is no secret to conservatives that children raised by their married mother and father are more likely to succeed in school, avoid harmful behaviors, and enjoy better long-term mental health than those raised in a single-parent home.
Yet in a culture that has rejected the reality of biological sex and redefined the meaning of marriage, it can be difficult to explain why the natural family is the best structure for children’s long-term outcomes.
The differences between how men and women interact with their children are seen every time a dad throws a baby in the air—much to the child’s delight and often to mom’s distress. The complementary parenting styles of men and women are observed in everyday life, but they are also backed by research.
According to research from the Journal of Child and Family Studies, when it comes to raising children, mothers are generally more emotionally available, self-controlled, and responsive to their children, attributes that help children feel accepted and supported. Moms also tend to be more lenient with their children than dads.
Fathers, on the other hand, are generally more inclined toward discipline and structure than mothers.
That does not mean dads don’t enjoy time with their children. In fact, research shows that fathers are more likely to initiate active play time with young children and keep them physically active as time goes on.
Yes, fathers may show less affection as their children grow older when compared to moms, but they are more likely to grant the type of autonomy that launches teens into adulthood.
Researchers have found that fathers also push their children to take chances and overcome limits.
While these traits are not universal, they clearly point to the difference in how mothers and fathers approach parenting. Yet despite these seemingly contradictory attributes, studies find that most couples acknowledge and appreciate the balance men and women bring to the home.
Children don’t just need two parents. They need the care and affection of their mother and father.
Unfortunately, whenever you remove children from the traditional family structure, they are far more likely to experience poverty, abuse, and unstable relationships themselves.
Furthermore, children are much safer from abuse and neglect when they are raised by both of their biological parents.
One study found that children living with an unrelated adult were 50 times more likely to die from inflicted injuries than children living with their biological parents.
This reality is one reason The Heritage Foundation’s policy paper titled “Saving America by Saving the Family: A Foundation for the Next 250 Years” treats restoring the family home as a matter of justice, driven by two truths.
The first truth is that all children have a right to the affection and protection of the man and woman who created them. The second is that the ideal environment in which to exercise this right is in a loving and stable home with their married biological parents.
The report goes into detail about policy proposals and cultural norms to encourage young people to marry and start families. These include financial incentives for marrying before the age of 30, a tax credit for married couples at the birth of a child, and a new measure to level the playing field for married couples who choose to raise toddlers at home.
These proposals are meant to revive a culture of marriage and strong families. This is exactly what the country needs at a time when many young people either delay starting a family or have ditched the idea altogether.
Marriage creates a special lifelong bond between a man and woman, but it is also the foundation for the best environment for raising happy and healthy children.